Short guys and online dating

22-Oct-2015 21:55

But when they finally get to size me up face to face, their instinct says otherwise, and they shut the process down.And I'm embarrassed to say that my own behavior probably reinforces the phenomenon: after batting a zero for long enough with women taller than you, you simply exclude them from the set of people you'd approach with romantic interest.

no secret that any man who stipulated he was seeking a size 2, minimum 34D on his profile would end up with a steady diet of swipes left, or possibly even hate mail.So how come women do something quite similar with regularity, and no one seems to bat an eye?The number of ladies on dating sites listing a minimum height requirement for potential matches is stunning.At the outset, I can understand: women are typically shorter than men; and if a man falls way below that variance it’s fairly easy to deduce he may be seen as less attractive to the general population.And thinking back, I've been in four serious relationships, with female partners with heights of -8, -4, -4, and +1 inches relative to my own.If you asked me three years ago, I'd deny that there was any selection process to this deviation from randomness, but having been through the online dating meat grinder, I think there very much is.

My experience is that one would get first dates with people who are approximately randomly sampled in height, despite height being listed on one's profile.

Almost to the very last one, the first dates with taller women were followed up by a beg-off along the lines of "I had a really great time with you, but I'm just not feeling it." My conjecture is that they are won over by a nice face picture and some witty dialogue and they manage to tell themselves that height is just a number.

I'm a male of an interesting height (5'6") to answer this question, as I'm relatively short for a man but nearly the average height of an American woman.

As an adult I have never had a problem making friends of any height, male or female.

But being a single adult male and trying to date was awful.

My feeling is that women don't look at short men (which I'd define as shorter than they are) negatively, per se, but just instinctively don't feel a physical attraction to them.